Up at Black Like Moi, the question being asked is if a woman can choose to abort a child, can a man choose not to pay? Or to put it more aptly, if it’s the woman’s choice, is it the mans responsibility? I’m sorry ladies, but this warrants a good airing out:
I’ve always believed that this is the main reason that some men feel no responsibility toward their kids. In their minds, the woman chose – on her own, usually without or against his input – to have the child so she bears the sole responsibility of caring for it. My friend Anthony (a.k.a. black yoda) was the first to draw my attention to this in a meaningful way with his comments on my post “rethinking deadbeat dads”. What if a woman was forced to carry a child to term against her will, what kind of mother would she be? Point being, anytime one parent is forced into that role against their will, problems ensue. It’s a breeding ground for resentment.
Yes it takes two people to get pregnant, but it is the woman’s choice to remain that way. This isn’t politically correct, I know, but it is an underlying cause for child abandonment. And although it is true that where child support is concerned, courts exist to protect the rights of the child, one has to ask; where are the rights of men in all of this? It’s the woman’s right to choose to carry the child to term, the child’s right to full protection under the law, and the father’s right to – pay. In this scenario, the only person bearing all responsibility while simultaneously having zero rights is the father. That can’t be fair.